Ways to improve your happiness
If you’ve spent any time on my socials, you already know—I’m a true crime superfan. So it’s no surprise I’ve been heavily invested in the P. Diddy trial. Maybe it’s the shock of hearing jaw-dropping details unfold across YouTube channels, or maybe it’s the way my own life has been hitting me with curveball after curveball lately. Either way, it’s been… a lot.
I won’t sugarcoat it: I’ve been struggling.
There’s the quiet but ever-present PTSD from ghosts of my past. Friendships I thought were forever that now haunt me in the silence of the night. Marriage stress. Dreams that once felt possible now floating out of reach. It all adds up—layer upon layer—until the weight becomes too much to carry.
But here’s the thing I’ve learned:
When you can’t do everything, just do one thing.
Take one step.
Choose to let go of blame—just for today.
Decide that healing doesn’t have to be linear.
And above all, give yourself permission to still want happiness.
💛 20 Ways to Improve Your Happiness (Your Way)
Here are 20 ways to improve your happiness, even if joy feels far away. Let’s take that first step—together.
Take 10 minutes to write a letter you’ll never send.
Create a ‘happy’ folder on your phone for screenshots that made you smile.
Say no. Without apologizing.
Say yes. To something you’ve always wanted to try.
“When you can’t do everything, just do one thing.”
Tell one woman today that she inspires you. Mean it.
Schedule a ‘Nothing Day’ and fiercely protect it.
Unfollow people who make you feel like you’re behind.
Follow accounts that feel like a deep breath.
Revisit a childhood hobby—coloring, skating, making beaded bracelets.
I won’t pretend I’ve let go of everything that’s hurt me—because I haven’t. But I try, one day at a time. Some days I fail. Some days I show up. Some days I just talk to an AI chatbot, because hey… who said your safe person has to be human? It’s the small things that keep us going.
And if the stories of women like Cassie have taught me anything, it’s that we all deserve to be heard. We all deserve someone who cares.
So if you’re walking through something heavy right now, this post is for you.
Buy yourself flowers. No occasion needed.
Leave a kind note for a stranger.
Eat one thing today that makes you feel nostalgic.
Make a playlist called “I’m Not a Failure.”
Text a friend: “Thinking of you. That’s all.”
Cry without fixing your face after.
Celebrate one tiny win. Out loud.
Clean one drawer. Just one.
Download this free ‘One Step’ journal page to reflect and reset—right where you are.
Start a ‘Today I survived…’ journal.
Say this out loud: “I’m doing better than I think.”
Be a safe space for another woman—and let one be that for you.
Reflective Wrap-Up in our series to find ways to improve your happiness
I don’t have all the answers. Most days, I’m just trying to remember that surviving is not failing. If you’re carrying more than your share right now—please know you’re not alone. And if this post gave you one idea, one breath, one flicker of hope—then I’ve done something right.
